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Product Details
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| Shipping Weight: |
0.50 |
| Author(s): |
Robert Noonan |
| Vendor: |
APPALACHIAN DISTRIBUTORS |
| Publisher: |
Pumpkin Seed Press |
| Published: |
25 October, 2004 |
| Format: |
Paperback |
| ISBN: |
0970027354 |
| Store Code: |
5027 |
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Genre: Religion - Biblical Studies; Religion; Biblical Studies - General; Religion / General; General; Bible - Study - General;
Average Review: 1 stars
Review: Not good for so many reasons : I read and ordered this book as part of a research project on the sexual purity movement in U.S. Christianity. Aside from the obvious problems a father being responsible to protect his daughter's purity (where is the mom here? how about the daughter's ability to care for herself? what about sons?), the book has other problems. The authors frequently use the term "train your daughter". I find this problematic because your daughter is not like a dog that you "train." While I don't think the authors MEAN harm by this, I think it speaks to their understanding of a father's role as a trainer and a daughter's need to be "trained." Further, for instance, the book suggest writing a letter to your daughter about her purity and her future "prince" for her to open on her wedding day/night. Clearly, this could make for a horrible and guilt-ridden wedding day/night if your daughter has not lived up to the expectations for being completely "pure." What an awful thing to inflict on your daughter who, statistically, probably will have been sexually active before her wedding night. The problems with this book reflect the challenge of the whole sexual purity movement, and I won't go into that here. While I try to be open to the fact that some folks may decide, in consultation with parents, to not be sexually active prior to marriage, this sort of book and suggested rituals, seem to be unusually problematic and high-pressure. I would suggest that if it is important for you that your daughter (or son!) are not sexually active before they are married, you share this wish with them, explain why, and give them the information and the tools and the self-confidence to make such decisions themselves, and, if it is part of your faith, in consultation with sacred scripture and in prayer. However, almost everything in this book seems bound to make daughter (and likely father) awkward, pressured, and uncomfortable. And, ultimately, it doesn't strike me as very effective. It would like make a daugher feel as though she couldn't share her actual thoughts and experiences with her parents since, given the content of this book (if it was actually followed) would very much discourage authentic and honest communication.
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